Arrrghh!!
What have I learnt about myself this week?
*From watching myself counselling - I speak majorly poshly!! Craziness!
*Counselling studies makes you very self absorbed! You're constantly reflecting on yourself, what you say, think, do - you have to remind yourself to think of other people! It's starting to get annoying - starting to feel like everything I talk about is me!
*I'm becoming a mother! No, not a real mother - don't panic! I'm the mother in our house, which was amusing to begin with, but I hate it now. I want to be peoples' friend not their mother. I can't help it - advice welcome.
*I often think of myself as better than other people or that I know better. Anothing that's beginning to annoy me. It's so easy to see into other peoples' lives and see where they're going wrong (particularly with money) - but when do you say something? Do you say nothing and let them get on with it? Or do you suggest that maybe things would be easier if they.... or whatever. If I do I just end up looking big headed and like I know best. Which I don't in many situations.
Argh I'm going crazy. Help people!
4 comments:
Firstly **big hug** You're great!
My housemates tell me I speak posh constantly, it's well annoying (especaiily when I find myself inserting "well" everywhere to deliberately make them wrong!) but we all have a dig at each other, it's funny!
I was afraid I was going to become the mother in my house before I went to uni. Elly ended up becoming the mother, she's so sweet. I guess I avoided it by trying to hold back a bit... like forcing myself not to get annoyed with or say anything to people who don't clean up after themselves for example. (Our house is a disgusting tip as a result but it's a happy house so who cares?!) I guess my advice would be to relax - don't let yourself get stressed about everyone doing their bit as conscienously as you will. Let everyone take their own responsiblity (they're going to have to sooner or later...) As long as you're doing your bit, don't worry about the others. I think your fourth point kinda comes in there as well - the money thing, it's their money, they cn do what they like with it and they will suffer the consequences so don't stress about it!
Hope something in there helps...
yeah that's cool and helpful.
I don't clean up at all! Or tell them to.
The main probably is the gas and electricity. I've fallen into doing it cuz no one else even remembers to check how much we've got! I don't mind doing it. It's the hassle of asking everyone for money the whole time I hate! They see it as having to give Helen money, not having to pay the bill, so they get annoyed with me as they have no money.
Maybe you could delegate - tell them a week in advance of the bill that you're handing over the responsibility to them this week/month. It'll suck when the house is freezing and you have to wrap up, but if you ride it out they'll realise it needs done and they'll do it. Then you've avoided being seen as the mum and they'll have taken some responsibility for themselves. It's about time they did!! You might have to do that a few times before they get it.
well I'm not going to be here to do it over Christmas :D
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